I had my DVR set to record an episode of Night Gallery tonight.  But when I started to play the recording, I was at first disappointed.  The DVR had been set on the right channel, at the right time.  But it had recorded the last thirty minutes of the Mrs. America Pageant for 2011.  It was hosted by Florence Henderson, and the winner was Mrs. Florida.  This had been just broadcast, because Florence wished everyone a happy Mothers’ Day.  And the contestants were beautiful–having much better figures than most Miss America contestants these days. 

I wasn’t surprised.  The most beautiful women I’ve ever known personally are/were married.  Some might say it’s because they’re married that I’m so attracted to them–that it’s my natural male desire for a forbidden woman.  And that may be true.  But I think there’s more.  All my female friends have been married women–in fact unmarried women avoid friendship with me.  Married women are much kinder toward me, even flirtatious with me.  The reason is obvious–they don’t feel threatened

It saddens me that women feel threatened so much anyway.  There’s so much child molestation and rape in our society that the paranoia of it has actually exceeded its incidence.  This is the case with most crimes–and one reason I’m so supportive of executing the cowards who commit them.  Opponents of capital punishment say it doesn’t work.  They’re mistaken.  Execution doesn’t seem to work in the United States, because it’s not carried out often enough.  Hardened criminals like child molesters and rapists are not afraid of prison–but all criminals are afraid of death.

Still, I digress.  There is no reason for women to feel threatened by most men in the United States.  Most of us are simply healthy men, attracted to women as we are designed to be, through evolution.  True, some of us may seem overbearing in our approach–but this is simply because we are so lonely.  And no matter how much we try to hide this desperation, we cannot.  For women truly are more intuitive than men.

I so often wish my married female friends and acquaintances were not married–yet realize if they weren’t, they’d probably have nothing to do with me.  Married women trust me, and it feels so good to be trusted!  When I approach an unmarried woman for a date, I am not looking for a one-night-stand–I truly desire a lasting, intimate relationship with a woman to whom I’m attracted, physically, intellectually, and spiritually.  But I cannot convince her of this, no matter how much I try.  Thus I ask women out less often now than ever in my life, I’m sick of trying.  And I realize that women are not attracted to nice guys or mean guys–but indifferent guys.  Yet indifference is impossible for me. 

I didn’t mean for this post to become so personal and melancholic–I may decide not to publish it.  But just in case, here is April Lufriu, Mrs. America 2011.

8 Responses to “MRS. AMERICA–WELL WHY NOT?”

  1. 1 iamheatherjo May 9, 2011 at 2:24 pm

    I don’t feel threatened, but I also don’t trust many people (men and women) or their motives until I get to know them. I’m friendly with men I don’t know well only to a point because I’ve found that when I’ve let my guard down in what I assumed was friendship, they had other ideas. I don’t like hurting anyone’s feelings and I’m always very up front that I’m NOT interested in dating at all but someone always seems to think I really didn’t mean it. Well, I do. LoL

    • 2 solosocial May 9, 2011 at 7:18 pm

      Thank you, Heather.

      I wish more women were like you, up-front with their feelings. I don’t know how many women have led me on–some intentionally, others unintentially. But in either case, I wish they would have made their feelings clear, from the beginning.

  2. 3 theduffboy May 9, 2011 at 5:48 pm

    It’s nice to get personal on our posts, Scott, that’s how we relate to bloggers for the most part. Frienships with married people are a tricky thing. I’m very respectful of my wife’s friendships with both sexes, and I’m grateful that there’s no flirting going on. I do understand, however, the allure of the married woman (being there, done that), that’s for sure.

  3. 5 Lynn May 12, 2011 at 8:52 pm

    “Execution doesn’t seem to work in the United States, because it’s not carried out often enough” I couldn’t agree with you more,inteeresting post Scott.

  4. 7 duncanr May 16, 2011 at 5:11 pm

    My best friends are female rather than male. I’m more open with regard to my thoughts and feelings with them than I am with my male friends. To some extent, I adopt a personna when with my male friends, whereas my female friends get to see the ‘real’ me.

    But there’s an important caveat here – my close female friends are either married or in a relationship. And that’s why it works – because we both know there is no underlying romantic motive behind our friendship. We can relax, be ourselves, laugh, talk, tease one another, enjoy each other’s company, have fun.

    If the woman is single, however, then I’m on edge a lot – constantly monitoring and reviewing our conversation and body language. Is she flirting with me? Was that just an innocent remark or did she intend a double entendre? When her hand briefly brushed mine, was it an accident? If intentional, was it simply a gesture of friendship? Or a sign she wished to move our relationship from platonic to romantic

    It’s because of the possibility of giving out the wrong signals or misinterpreting the actions/motives of the other person that I think male-female friendships are easier if both parties are in relationships with other people !

    • 8 solosocial May 16, 2011 at 9:28 pm

      Thank you, Duncan!

      I agree. Too often I think a woman is flirting with me, when she’s really just being friendly. Certainly there are women, attached and unattached, who flirt just to boost their self esteem. But I doubt most are this way. Instead, I think we men are more likely to misinterpret women’s friendliness.

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