Posts Tagged 'selecting a mate'


Another question from Gregory Stock’s book is this:

In selecting a life partner, do you think it is more important to follow your heart or your head?  Would you ever let yourself fall in love with someone who wasn’t at all like the image of the person you would hope to find?

In selecting a mate, it is more important to follow your heart.  If you follow your heart, instead of your head, you may be miserable.  If you follow your head, instead of your heart, you will be miserable. 

As for the second part of the question, falling in love is not something one can choose.  I couldn’t help but fall in love with someone, whether she met my expectations or not.  This is because love is a feeling.  And as I’ve stated in a previous post: 

We have much control over our actions.  We have some control over our thoughts.  But we have no control over our feelings or beliefs.